Domestic violence is generally a learned behavior. It often takes a strong-willed individual to break the cycle. No matter if the victims get away from the routine occurrences of violent acts, or the abuser seeks help, these situations can be challenging to overcome. Few people, both abuser and victim can admit to even having a problem, and fewer yet can get over their pride to ask for assistance. Usually, it takes the support of a loved one to seek help for those on both sides of the situation, no matter the circumstances. With this in mind, we at Kajioka & Associates, Attorneys at Law, would like to take the opportunity to provide tips and advice on dealing with potentially violate outbursts in addition to victim of domestic violence and abuse.
Tips to Deal with Domestic Violence
Respect personal space – When the personal space is encroached on, particularly in heated debates, people naturally get more anxious and on edge. People will often have their flight or fight syndrome kick in as some people will get a boost in anxiety when feeling threatened. A naturally violent person typically takes the path of fight.
Stay at arms length distance – This can help avoid escalating into a fight. Heeding this advice, will keep violent individuals less likely go in for a strike, and if they do, you are out of their reach and can better respond to defend yourself.
Communicate – Explain to person that requires medical attention, especially when they are prone to violence, what you are doing as you approach. If they decline your assistance, try to reduce their anxiety first. If you are having problems with the person in need, allow someone with a stronger rapport conduct the procedure.
Body Language – Note body language as it is just as important. Generally interpreted as a challenge, avoid eye to eye contact and toe to toe positioning. If an agitated or anxious person erupts, standing in non-aggressive pose can be a determining factor.
Offer Support. Try being more empathetic when dealing with people prone to violent tendencies and do not pass judgment. Being understanding and supportive, even when you do not agree on what has made the person agitated or upset, can deflate the situation. Avoid using any words or tone that can be perceived as provoking.
Change Subject. To challenging questions, react indifferently. Violence can often be hindered by simply ignoring or redirecting the fueled questioning. Try changing the subject with a keep calm voice.
Tips for Victims of Domestic Violence / Abuse
1) Identify the signs. Domestic violence soon follows after bouts of verbal abuse.
2) Seek medical attention. If you have been victimized, get medical attention as soon as possible. Medical help is vital, and you do not have to disclose any information you do not wish to. In the event your attacker refuses help, a kept journal of the domestic abuse can help when you decide to leave.
3) Know you are not to blame. Most abusers place blame on their victims, and too many believe it. Admit to yourself, you are not to blame, and no one deserves to be abused.
4) Safety of children. If your children are not being abused, it is a matter of time, and trauma of seeing a parent abused by a loved one can difficult and the cycle continues.
5) Seek advice. Ask close family and friends for help to escape.
Tips for a Defendant Accused of Domestic Violence
1) Consider counseling if you are indeed inflicting pain on loved ones and legitimately want help. Those who want to change, rehabilitation is proven to help.
2) Contact Kajioka & Associates, Attorneys at Law for representation. Our experienced professionals can help represent you in court.